Wednesday 28th November, 2007

 

 

 

 

 

Next month - Rod McKuen in Palm Springs!
Click HERE for details.

 

A Thought for Today

No walls can stop the coming of love and no clock can bring it back. Yet letters are still sent on missions armies couldn't win, for love or country.

 

This One Does It For Me!

Ken,

Today is the anniversary of my father's death and tomorrow (29th) is his birthday.

Even though he has been gone for many years I still miss him so very much and still find myself wishing that he was here for all of the special days in my life. Perhaps today you could post something from "Finding My Father."

Dads are really special and I was fortunate enough to realize this while he was still in my life. He now lives in my heart and if it is possible I love him even more.

Thanks Ken,

Laura Atkinson

Thanks for your touching letter, Laura.

While it's the Mother who usually glues the family together a Father always has a special relationship with his daughter. I know this because I'm doubly blessed, having twin daughters, and it sounds as though your relationship with your Dad was just as special.

Here's some of Rod's work from the book. Although the first story is about his Mother it's one of my favourites and particularly apt at this time of the year.

A CHRISTMAS STORY from "Finding My Father"    

Being a night person, most of the time Mom worked the swing shift in North Las Vegas, first in Lincoln Snyder’s soda fountain and later as a barmaid at the Northside Tavern; but once in awhile she would trade shifts, which meant that if it was summer and there was no school Billy and I would be free to go where we wanted to without much supervision. Our favorite place was the city dump..

If it was a weekend and there was no one around we would play on the tractors and cranes that moved the rubbish and debris. During the week we’d slide on our bellies past mounds of refuse, hiding from the attendants, who would always try to chase us away.

One Christmas Eve one of the bartenders got drunk and couldn’t report for work the next day so Mama worked a double shift. It was wonderful. We had the whole day and evening to play at the dump and it was our idea of a real Christmas. What treasures we found that day. A floor lamp, an easy chair with half the stuffing gone, an old box of somebody’s discarded toys, old clothes, and more bottles than we could possibly carry to the market to redeem for the meager deposit.

Sometime during the afternoon it occurred to us, as a surprise for Mom, to redecorate the house with the furniture and odd bits of bric-a-brac we’d found at the dump. Billy had a red and yellow wagon and we must have made twenty trips, lugging all our goodies home. Of course, to make room for these treasures, we had to move all the furniture and trunks already in the house out into the front yard. While we were doing this, someone came by and thought we were having a rummage sale. I couldn’t believe it when Billy came running in to tell me he’d been offered $5 for Mama’s dresser. What a source of newfound money!

In just over two hours we were able to sell all the furniture we’d moved out on the lawn, plus the curtains from the windows, pots and pans. And Mama’s doilies. We even sold the oilcloth off the kitchen table for twenty-five cents.

It would be dark soon and so we had to complete our refurbishing before the light faded. I don’t think either of us ever worked so hard. In the end we were both so tired we fell asleep on the torn and soiled, but pretty, satin bedspread we’d replaced on Mama’s bed after selling off her comforter.

You can imagine her surprise when she came home from working two long shifts serving drinks to merrymakers and refereeing bar bouts between Christmas drunks.. Perhaps ‘surprise’ is not the correct word. I’m not sure what is.

Mama was too tired to spank us but she screamed and cried a lot. Though at the time we couldn’t understand why. She had the new floor lamp. Even if it didn’t work it could probably be fixed. And, our latest kitchen table was larger than the old one. I had nearly mashed my thumb while hammering a two-by-four in place to replace a missing leg. It now listed a bit, but the angle wasn’t so bad that utensils and plates would likely slip off.

The curtains were very different from the old ones; while there were only three windows in the living room, there were now twice that many curtains on them. I distinctly remember Mama having said many times that she’d like to get rid of that old junk in the house. ‘Just for a change.’ Well, now she had her change. We hadn’t yet found a replacement stove, but there were more than enough pots and pans left over from the sale that could be used if and when we did.

Mom continued to look dazed, but she came to life again when she started to sit down on the new davenport. It collapsed completely under her, all three sides falling away. It was then that I handed her the envelope containing the money we’d received from the sale of the old furniture: $71.30. It had been planned as a Christmas gift all along, and Billy had written in crayon on the outside of the envelope, To Mama, Merry Christmas from The Katzenjammer Kids.

Mama didn’t speak for a long time, but when she did she just looked up and said, "Merry Christmas." And it was.

-from "Finding My Father," 1975, 1976.

Winding Down

Regular readers will know that this column usually takes a break during the month of December and this year is no exception.

I'd like to extend my thanks to you all for continuing to support us here at A Safe Place to Land. It really would be very lonely here in cyberspace without your input and feedback which is always interesting and thought provoking.

To you and your loved ones a very Blessed Christmas and all good wishes for 2008 - may we all prosper and thrive.

Click on the Stanyan House logo to buy Rod McKuen books, CD's and lots more

Click on the heart logo to subscribe to the Rod McKuen mailing list

Catch Rod McKuen live!

Click on the links below for details of concerts and appearances.

ROD McKUEN CONCERTS

ROD McKUEN APPEARANCES

notable birthdays Bruce Atkinson o William Blake o John Bunyan o Barry Gordy Jr. o Alexander Godunov o Gloria Grahame o Ed Harris o Gary Hart o Jose Iturbi o Shawn Kemp o Claude Levi-Strauss o Hope Lang o Jean-Baptiste Lully o Jacki McDonald o Judd Nelson o Randy Newman o Anton Rubinstein o Paul Shaffer o Stefan Swig o Gloria Winters
Rod's random thoughts If you believe misery loves company, seek your own counsel.

Inattention to ideals is dangerous.

It only takes a slight foundation of experience for a great artist to erect an idealized superstructure.

A LOSS OF INNOCENCE

I do not lament
The loss of innocence
The gain was payment
Far beyond imagining.
And innocence is not
too much to give
To one who'd give you back
the world.
Down through my life I must be
Ever conscience of repayment
            but to whom?
Never mind
I'll know the teller when he comes.
Don't ask me how, I'll know, I'll know.  

- from Finding My Father, 1976

 
    AND FINALLY

If you have a favorite McKuen song, poem or story you'd like to share, or a question you need answered, drop me a line at kenb@mckuen.com and I'll publish your letter right here early next year.

-Ken, Johannesburg, South Africa, November 28

 
© 1970, 1986, 2002, 2003, 2005, 2006, 2007 by Stanyan Music Group & Rod McKuen. All Rights Reserved
Webmaster: Ken Blackie • Birthday Research by Wade Alexander • Poems from the collection of Jay Hagan •
Sound & Fury Dr. Eric Yeager • Editor at Large: Bruce Bellingham • Emeritus: Melinda Smith
Want to comment on today's Flight Plan?
Send e-mail to Rod McKuen or post a message at the Rod McKuen Message Board
home page   today's flight plan   flight plan archives   search this site   site map
stanyan