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This One Does It For Me!

Ken,

What are the chances of Rod producing again those wonderful diaries he used to publish years ago?

I still have some of them and refer to them often. An updated version would be most welcome.

Annie.


I'd guess the chances are pretty slim, Annie. The books took a lot of time and effort to put together and were done when the staff complement of Stanyan was far greater than it is today.

They were great productions, though, and I hope you enjoy re-reading Rod's introduction to the 1985 edition.

Another Beautiful Day

The All New 1985 Rod McKuen Book of Days Datebook & Diary

Author’s Note

The Importance of Keeping a Diary

Life is transient. Death no better. The only thing of importance - despite computer threat and more important things to do some days - is a reasonably well-kept diary.

Ned Rohem goes on turning his into cash. Once out of print, he displays the best trait of writers and regurgitates the copyright to form a new and fatter omnibus. Noel Coward’s day book is gossip elevated to high art - though somewhat fudged. From Michelangelo’s jottings, we learn inventions, mathematics, proposals, success, a little failure and personals we could do without. Anais Nin’s life was her calendar, or her calendar was her life. When blank pages needed filling, she wrote some pretty nifty dirty stories in the margins. Very Colette. Every book Christopher Isherwood, Truman Capote, and to a lesser degree, Norman Mailer has authored is a diary disguised. Hemingway wrote ‘wish diaries’.

That most illuminating of ‘talk to myself’ works by the young and courageous Anne Frank was a testament, a manifesto, and a movie of the same name. Last year when her father / editor died, the unexpurgated version of her private attic thoughts was published. The work endures. If we can believe Peter Hall, he eschewed ( today’s big word ) exercise and dining out in favor of dashing home each and every night to a notebook. Once a week his solicitors cut out the good parts.

Publication and the following derision and / or acclaim is not the ultimate reason for maintaining a journal or book of days. Memory is probably the most interesting yet most illusive accounting system God gives us. The more age sets in, the more we choose to forget or neglect to commit to memory. I keep an intermittent diary because once I’ve pen-and-paperized a thought I’ve freed another brain cell or two. This allows the luxury of pursuing new and ancient loves, the knobs needed from the hardware store, the programmed changing of the cat box, Animal Concern ( plug ) - to which the major portion of my royalties from this diary, Book of Days, calendar are donated - the ongoing struggle with the garden, trying to psyche myself out of concert retirement, being a better friend to friends etc. You get the picture. Putting it down on paper is one more road to freedom.

Keeping a diary, like sticking to a diet, is among the most difficult things in this all too difficult life - next to it, lovers and family are a snap. The 1985 Book of Days took a year and a half to put together. I figure it ought to take you only about a year to take it apart.

If the fortunate and the famous are as diligent as we all should be in keeping diaries, perhaps typical entries would resemble the following:

He looked at me - not just a look, but those wide double-layered savage lashes batting one hundred seemed to say “I want your body... starting with your ears and moving down”. Suddenly, my back went limp, a disc or two had slipped a little. “Take me,” I cried - or was it a whimper ? His roughness seemed to move over me until the deepness... -Barbara Courtyard

An uneventful day. The yacht sank. Christopher Little sat on the keyboard of the harpsichord and broke the keys I need to play the Bach E-Minor. I shall be confined to mostly Mozart. The Reagan for President Again - or Else bumper stickers were printed in mauve instead of puce. another amusing letter from Charlton Heston, but his subscription has run out. Who is William Safire and why is he saying all those terrible things about RR ? Calls to make: Peter McWilliams, the Pope, Phyllis Schlafly, Ralph Nader’s secretary, William Casey, Brooke Shields ( regarding theory of earth regeneration through modified cow chips ). Write new book between 9:00 and 9:45. Ring Midas about recovering limo seats. Offer “personal bedsheet squares unlaundered” to subscribers extending National Review. - William F Druckley

Why doesn’t somebody send me three dozen long-stemmed roses and make my day ! Why doesn’t Sondra make my bed ? - Clint Westwood

Oh heave your body up into the hammock and on mine and we will sing the wandering song of semi-copulation in the wilderness. DUST, dirt, mud, marigold, mud-pies and effervescent extraterrestrial existentialist every-ready spunk, you are a part of me and I you. Did you think that I would not come to you ? Ah I am HERE. Where are you ? -Walt Whatman

For a long time now, The Monograms - like The Monologues - have worked. First there was Jody, then Joanne, and finally Joanna ( not to mention Judy, Jill, Jessica, Jolene, Jemima, Jacquie, and, of course, Jillian ). It was nice having J.C. around the house. Now that I’m in a new bag, what to do with the old towels ? Maybe Freddie can start soliciting religious cults. Wanda is a nice name, but I’m worried about the initials. -Johnny Carnac

I - into her - - and then turning - - - that little - - until it - - profusely. She - - - - and - - - - !! I could hardly - - so I - and - . “What a waste,” I heard her say as she - - - . Dazed and - - I picked myself up. ‘Whew,” escaped her throat. “Oh, my,” I echoed. -Enri Millar

“You want to see nifty fifties ?” Send for an 8X10 glossy of Carol Coda. “You want to see fifty ?” Call me. -Gloria Steinperson

I can’t wear the Galanos because the Secret Service men saw me taking out the garbage in it six months ago. The green Adolfo, maybe, but didn’t I address the Better Butchers’ Bureau Annual Bakeoff six years in something like that ? Maybe the Norell. No. I wore it to meet Betty and Phil on the Britannia. The Clovis Ruffin ? My card file shows I haven’t worn it since the John Birch luncheon in 1954. True, I only wore the Valentino once, but Ronnie spilled shoe polish on the hem while doing his hair. Thank God for Carolyn Horchow. -The First Nancy

Just squeeze me, if you want to please me. Embrace me, my embraceable you. Bend down and touch me. Roll me over in the clover. Let’s get physical. Cuddle up a little bit closer, lovey mine. Hold me, thrill me, kiss me. I’m all for you, body and soul. Take me in your arms. Do you really want to hurt me ? Good, it’s only a part of Loving Each Other: Living, Loving, and Learning. -Leo Bucksonly, Ph.D.

Kiss me. Herpes values are doubled. - Richard Awesome

Dear Diary: Last night I had the fullback. Tomorrow the team. If Blake were a real man, he’d buy me a lifetime pass to the British Open. - Alexis Carrington


Enough.

If you’ve waded this far you know that keeping a diary is not so much an art as it is an attitude. Gimmicks help - even if you only intend to use this as your appointment book. I’ve been designing my calendars, datebooks, and diaries since 1970 to include trickery that might force my attention back to a page each day. Since I intend to be around when the century turn, it wouldn’t be much fun to look back on 1985 and find a blank book. But never mind prosperity: what about next week’s appointments and last night’s rejection ?

This year’s tricks to get me, and you, to return to our books on some kind of a regular basis include six or seven birthdates of the famous and the infamous and just plain friends ( mostly infamous ) each day. That comes to around 3,400 total. A daily aphorism or quote from something I’ve said in the past might trigger a new thought. All the holidays - plus a few that I made up just for the heck of it or to honor some deserving soul such as Madame Maria Ouspenskaya, Beau Brummell, or Vera Hruba Ralston. Last year the Harper & Row copy editor asked me who Boy George was. No kidding. So don’t ask, “Who’s Vera Hruba Ralston ?” This year I’ve included ruled lines to keep my handwriting in check and, of course, the all-important ribbon marker - so I don’t have to clip the corners of pages to indicate where I left off.

At the start of each month there are a couple of poems, twenty-six in all. They stretch as far back as Stanyan Street, published in 1965; as far forward as Suspension Bridge, published in 1984. I even sat down and wrote some brand-new verses for this edition.

Near the back of the book, where it belongs, is one of the most important sections: ‘365 Holidays you might not know about’. These days become increasingly important because of mounting stress in our daily lives. Suppose you miss a day of work or school and want something a little different to write on your ‘pass the buck’ slip ? If its March 10th, you can say you were celebrating the invention of paper money ( now more worthless than ever ). Later that month, on the 21st, you can tell friends you’re still hung over from remembering the famous night John and Yoko invited the world into their bedroom in an Amsterdam hotel to celebrate their honeymoon; that was in 1969.

Bet you didn’t know that Floridians often take the day off and go swimming on April 8th to commemorate ‘the Great Swim-in of Ponce de Leon’ in 1513. This year the 8th falls on a Monday and it’s also the birthday of Betty Ford, Sonja Henie, Jacques Brel, and Buddha. Lots of reasons for confetti and paper hats. I have a birthday in April too; you can celebrate mine - though I’ll probably be hiding somewhere, pretending I’m still twenty-five.

With summer long gone, by the 9th of October you’ll want to commemorate the invention of the calliope ( or maybe not ). My friend Larry Ashmead celebrates this day every year by taking a paddle wheeler down the Mississippi to visit the junk shops in Natchez. But then he also celebrates the 6th of October, because in 1863 - when he was just a lad - Brooklyn’s first Turkish Bath opened. In fact, if you opened a can of sardines, he’d celebrate. Onward.

On October 20, 1959, the Edsel was born and buried. November 4th is Abe and Mary Lincoln’s 143rd wedding anniversary ( don’t forget to send a card ). If you work at Ms. magazine, I dare you to celebrate November 13th. On that day in 1914 a patent was granted for the first bra, a crude model fashioned from two handkerchiefs. Note to Jane Russell: those ‘full-figured gals’ would have to wait for the bandanna version patented the following year.

Not all the information here is sexist. Gloria Steinem, Betsy Ross, Jane Fonda, Joan of Arc, Odetta, Phyllis Diller, Ayn Rand, Jo Stafford, and Grandma Moses’ birthdays are among the thousands or so this country’s and the world’s great women represented. Emma Goldman has a day all to herself, as do the friends of Bertha. If you’re a friend of Bertha, hoist one. The friends and enemies of William Morris may want to open an IRA with ten percent of their earnings during August.

If you like books, I’ll see you in San Francisco starting May 25th, when the American Booksellers’ Convention starts; or join me in Cheyenne on July 9th when Frontier Days begin. The list of special weeks and Trivia El Grande is endless. So are the places I plan to take my diary during the year.

If you need a little extra space when thoughts run over, I’ve included a whole month of Sundays. ( This volume seems to contain lots and lots of et ceteras ). Here you can learn that it wasn’t Ed Meese, but Henry Ward Beecher, who said, “The man who can’t live on bread and water isn’t fit to live”.

In short, this diary is a bit like one of my concerts: I’ve tried to include something to please and offend nearly everyone. I hope you come back next year so we can work together on 1986. By the way, I even accept suggestions and complaints. You can write to me c/o Animal Concern, Box 2783, Hollywood, CA 90028. No complaints, only thanks are due to Clayton Carlson, Tom Dorsaneo, Kathy Reigstad, Dorian Gossy, and the entire A-team in San Francisco, who daily remind me of deadlines and this year didn’t once ask, “Who’s Boy George” ?

Have a beautiful 1985.

R.M. / 1984

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SEARCH PARTY

Who is listening
under these calm stars
on this tranquil evening,
who can hear me
and who can know the sounds
my ears are hearing?

We search
because we have to search
because there is no other way.

Because the sky is low
and the world is measured
              in a child's eye
systematically we search
not places or countries
but one another's smiles
                      and eyes.
There is no other way
to find ourselves
but in each others faces.

Who is listening
              here and now?
None but the lonely
I would think
for only they
would understand.
Should they lack
             understanding
they'd be the first
to care enough
about themselves
              to learn.

The lonely
are the singers
the ones who have
the loudest voices
when they finally
             open up.

Sing to me
and maybe the music
from your blue guitar
will be the soothing voice
I've wished and waited for.

I have come a long way
wandering down from
silver-red mountains
in search of music
               such as yours,
so sing
and let the music
               once played
satisfy the need I have
to be among the loved
and needed people.

- from "Beyond The Boardwalk", 1976

 
    AND FINALLY

More next week. Meantime if you have a favorite McKuen song, poem or story you'd like to share, or a question you need answered, drop me a line (you'll find the address on our Contact Page) and I'll do the rest.

-Ken, Johannesburg, South Africa, September 10

 
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